I Get By With A Little Help From My Friends

First – my apologies.  Christie pointed out that she recommended The Daily Burn instead of the Daily Plate.  I am going to give it a try – from what I already see I like it better than the Daily Plate, so we’ll see.

Secondly, I got a lot of scolding from my friends yesterday about feeling like a failure.  It’s hard not to look at it that way when you have been stalled out for so long, and combined with the latest hormone surge (thank you very much weightloss surgery) I felt like a total and utter, “I’ll never ever be at goal weight” downer.  They pointed out that a loss of nearly 130 pounds is not a failure.

My wonderful friend Boxer also pointed out to me what has gotten me through stalls in the past – increasing protien and fluids.  I have been drinking my fluids, but I’ve not been drinking enough actual water, so I’m upping that starting today.

I will continue to diary my feelings and food so Cindy can look at my logs next week.  It’s painful to write down the crap I put in my mouth when I’m stressed out, and I have  a ton of stress lately, so maybe the accountability will be enough to scare me straight.

At least I’ve already had 58g of protein already today – that’s a start in the right direction.  I’m keeping up my am protein shake and boosting my breakfast protein.  Maybe that will help.  Also, once school is done, the stress will ease up at least for a month and I can focus more on just me.

*Sniff* Bye Angie!

My support group means the absolute world to me.  They have been my number 2 source of support (Bob’s my number 1) through this whole process.

My dear friend Angie has gotten a job in Tampa and is able to move back to Florida.  She’s leaving next week, so we got together last night to wish my dear dear friend a safe journey and wonderful chance at her new life.  *sniff*  We love you Angie, and you are gonna RAWK Tampa!

PEEKTURES!

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Get By With A Little Help From My Friends

I have met a wonderful group of women (and one wonderful man) who have quickly become very close friends and the perfect support group.  I met them all through Obesityhelp.com.  We have gotten together a few times (they were the ladies who took me to tea before surgery) and we got together yesterday for a lovely lunch at the PA Dutch Market over in Cockeysville.  These wonderful people keep me sane, give me encouragement, keep me laughing, and have quickly quickly won my heart and now, they are family.

One of the things that happens when you have weightloss surgery is that you speed through clothing sizes very very fast.  I have gone from a size 30/32 (on the top and bottom) down to a size 18/20 on top and a size 20/22 (depends on the brand) on the bottom.  Buying clothes, even at thrift stores, will break you quickly.

Thanks to these beautiful women, I have had to spend very little on clothing.  When I hit the 22/24s , the lovely Tia gave me 2 huge lawn and leaf bags of clothing – gorgeous clothing – back in December.  These are now too big, so yesterday, I took them back to her (she’s hoping to re-use them).  And the lovely Angie gave me three big bags of smaller clothes – which all fit.  I’m now the proud owner of 12 new pairs of pants (both jeans and dress slacks) and 27 gorgeous blouses and shirts.  There were an additional 7 or so shirts that were too big, and two pairs of pants and two shirts which are still one size too small.  But I’m well outfitted.

Clothing exchanges are a wonderful way to give support for each other.  It’s encouraging, but at the same time, exciting to get new clothes without having to spend a ton of money.  And what’s better, is that it creates and even bigger bond to these wonderful people who have gone down this road before you (and in a lot of cases, you are paving the road for the “losers” who come after you). 

I am greatful for my surgery for many reasons, but the biggest reason next to the health implications has been gaining such a wonderful group of friends.  It’s so nice to share your hopes and dreams, your frustrations and fears, your WOW moments and your Not-so-wow moments.  It’s a family and you all build me up so much.  Your advice, encouragement, and love have meant the world to me.  I LOVE YOU ALL HARD!!!!!

Happy Holidays

To all of the readers of I’m Being Bypassed and La Casa de Pollo, Bob and I would like to wish you the happiest of holiday seasons and a prosperous new year.

Tea By Two

I went out this afternoon and met some lovely ladies from the Maryland board on Obesityhelp.com.  We went to Tea by Two in Bel Air and had high tea, and it was a simply delicious afternoon.  I met my surgery angel, KBS-Tia, Boxer Heather, DebbieL. and DarlaP.  It was a very enlightening trip, and the tea room was just lovely!

I was so wonderful to hear from ladies who have actually had the surgery.  I find myself seeking out my own support group, and these women were just wonderful.  Such funny ladies, and we had such a good time.  And the tea room – oh the tea room.  I think I’ve discovered a new obsession!  I called my mom on the way home to tell her once I was back on solid foods, we were heading back there. 

I’m happy to be able to relate to these ladies.  Bob and I have wanted to branch out and meet new people, and I think this was a perfect way to start.  Not that I don’t love my friends, I do.  But it was invaluable to me to meet people who have “been there and done that” with WLS.  I got so many tips, and hints, and got to see how things are really going to be after surgery.

As for the tea room and High Tea – I’m in love.  New tradition in my life.  And the tea…oh the tea…I love tea anyway, but theirs was wonderful.  High Tea was two pots of tea (we started with a lovely spiced blend and a mint blend), soup (baked potato with bacon and cheddar soup), and then came the scones.  OMG.  Lovely orange scones.  Tea sandwiches and desserts, which most of us took home.  It was a lovely afternoon.  I’m so glad I went.

Now I’m down to three days – two really, since today is nearly over.  Tonight, we are having friends over for a movie night.  I think its the perfect way to spend the weekend.  I’ve really had a wonderful weekend…and I’m really looking forward to my new life – just around the corner.

Tia, Heather, Darla and Debbie – thank you so much for such an absolutely wonderful afternoon!

This is Not Weightloss Related…But Humor Me

A few weeks ago, over at La Casa de Pollo,  I wrote about my friends Drew and Donna.  For those who don’t want to go back, Drew was an old college friend of mine who I reconnected with on Facebook.  His wife, Donna, has a stage 4 glioma – a brain tumor.

In July, Donna went in for a routine biopsy of the tumor.  During the procedure, a blood vessel was knicked, and Donna had a seizure.  After quite a while in intensive care, Donna was moved to a rehab facility.  Her progress has been slow, but she has begun radiation and chemo.  Her prognosis, while initially was 6 months to 2 years, has now, unfortunately, been downgraded to merely months.

Drew and Donna are wonderful people.  Drew is one of the funniest guys I know, and Donna is just such a nice, wonderful caring person.  They have been in love as long as I’ve known them.  They have a little boy, Joe, who is learning to deal with his mother’s illness and impending death. 

I know you don’t know them, but please, keep this family in your thoughts and prayers, that they may all find peace and healing no matter what the outcome of Donna’s illness.